It’s that time of year again when many people have made promises to themselves. “I’m going to do more of this” or “less of that.” “I’m going to start this” or “stop that”. Even if you don’t make resolutions or set intentions, it is a natural time to pause and take inventory of the past year. As people around you...
Misunderstandings and disagreements are inevitable and there is no shortage of potential communication problems. Studies show they are a primary reason couples agree to seek out marriage counseling. Some communication issues are painfully obvious, for example: The silent treatment Mockery or contempt Defensiveness Invalidating feelings Non-stop criticism These are the types of serious concerns and patterns that threaten relationships. Even...
Do you have trouble tolerating emotional discomfort? Over the course of this 3 part series, Felicia, a CMP clinician, will explore how this came to be and what can be done about it. In Part 1 you'll understand the importance of being with yourself, especially when you're hurting. Read Felicia's blog here. Felicia Keller Boyle loves working with clients to...
It may be a cliché. But it’s a very, very accurate cliché: One day, the child becomes the parent. That’s when all the rules get flipped. Your parents lost sleep caring for you. They spend inordinate amounts of money. If needed, they re-arranged their lives over and over. Now, the tables have turned and you suddenly have to learn about...
We’ve come a long way in helping people with disabilities. From ramps to special seating to bathroom accommodations. this is all important progress. But what if your disability is not obvious? What if you have an invisible illness? What does it mean to have an “invisible illness”? “Invisible illness” is an umbrella term that describes illnesses, diseases, and disabilities that are...
Clues… You are constantly receiving clues. They are the context that creates your perspective. Clues come from pop culture, gender roles, society’s expectations, and more. When it comes to your body, you use these clues to train your brain. Often, you focus on your “flaws.” Even when someone compliments you, you can’t even see what it is they like about...
Processing grief can be confusing and overwhelming. Here is a piece about taking care of your inner child by giving yourself permission to grieve freely and without limitations. If you or someone you know needs support while navigating this process please reach out. Read Emily's blog here. Emily is a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern with the Center for Mindful...
Couples therapy has undergone many productive shifts and transitions over the years. Through it all, the success rate of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) remains consistently impressive. Thus, EFT for couples has been studied extensively. Research shows the following: 70-75 percent of couples move from distress to recovery. These couples report being much happier with each other (compared to 35 percent...
Are you tired of working so hard to be perfect? Self-criticism masquerading as self-improvement is pervasive in today's culture of perfectionism, but it is not the only way to be your best self! Read Emily's blog here. Emily is a Associate Marriage & Family Therapist with the Center for Mindful Psychotherapy. Her goal is to help clients create ease in...
How can you cope with painful emotions? How do you begin to change patterns that may not be helping you anymore? Feeling bad is an inescapable part of being human. Learn some skills for taking care of yourself when things get rough. Read Felicia's blog here. Felicia Keller Boyle is a member of the CMP Intake and Web Teams and Associate Marriage...