It’s a question many clients bring into therapy—sometimes with quiet guilt, sometimes with urgency: What happens if I want polyamory and my partner doesn’t? This kind of desire mismatch can be deeply destabilizing, especially in long-term relationships. Maybe one partner is feeling the need for more freedom, expansion, or authenticity, while the other feels secure in monogamy. These differences don’t...
Jealousy is one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships. It’s a word that can stir up shame, fear, defensiveness, or guilt—especially in polyamorous and non-monogamous dynamics, where freedom and trust are central values. Many people believe that if they were truly "evolved" or "secure," they wouldn’t feel jealous at all. But that’s not how emotions work—and it’s not...
Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are often portrayed as progressive, inclusive, and liberatory. But for many queer and BIPOC individuals, the experience of navigating polyamory can still be deeply shaped by systemic oppression, cultural invisibility, and marginalization—even within communities that consider themselves open-minded. If you're queer and/or BIPOC and exploring non-monogamy, you may find yourself wrestling with layers...
For many people, the path to understanding their relationship orientation isn’t linear. You might be in a monogamous relationship but find yourself wondering about other possibilities. Or maybe you've always felt that monogamy doesn't quite fit—but you’re unsure whether that means you’re polyamorous, simply open to exploration, or somewhere else on the spectrum. It’s common to feel uncertainty, curiosity, even...
Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships, self-respect, and emotional well-being. When someone disregards your boundaries, it can lead to stress, resentment, and even toxic relationships. However, many people struggle to recognize boundary violations until they’ve already caused harm. Learn more about therapy for communication and boundaries Here are 35 clear signs that someone may be crossing your boundaries—emotionally,...
Boundaries and communication are two of the most critical components of healthy relationships, yet they are also among the most misunderstood. Many people struggle with setting clear personal boundaries, while others find it difficult to communicate their needs effectively. To clarify some of the most common concerns, we've gathered insights from therapists to answer frequently asked questions about boundaries and...
Are You an Empath, an HSP, or Codependent? Why It Matters If you often find yourself emotionally drained by other people’s moods, feeling responsible for fixing their distress, or struggling to separate your own emotions from those around you, you may have been told you’re an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), an empath, or codependent. While these terms are often used...
Many adults struggling with codependency find themselves over-functioning in relationships, prioritizing others’ needs over their own, and struggling with low self-worth. They often feel an intense responsibility to keep others happy while neglecting their own emotional needs. While these behaviors may seem like personality traits or habits, they are often rooted in early childhood experiences—specifically in unmet emotional needs, family...
Many people who struggle with codependency find themselves in relationships where they overextend, over-accommodate, and put others’ needs before their own. They may feel obligated to forgive endlessly, avoid conflict, and always “take the high road.” While kindness and compassion are essential in relationships, when these values are used to suppress real emotions or avoid necessary boundaries, they can become...
Many people struggling with codependency find themselves feeling anxious, overburdened, and emotionally drained by their relationships. They take on more than their fair share of responsibility, constantly trying to manage how others feel, anticipate needs, and prevent conflict. What many don’t realize is that perfectionism often plays a central role in this pattern—fueling an endless cycle of self-sacrifice, guilt, and...