Emotional boundaries are often the most subtle—and most essential—part of maintaining healthy open or polyamorous relationships. While physical boundaries (like time, touch, or space) are more tangible, emotional boundaries define your inner world: your values, your energy, your self-respect, and your emotional safety. In polyamorous dynamics, it’s easy for emotional boundaries to blur. You may feel pulled between multiple people’s...[ read more ]
Jealousy is one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships. It’s a word that can stir up shame, fear, defensiveness, or guilt—especially in polyamorous and non-monogamous dynamics, where freedom and trust are central values. Many people believe that if they were truly "evolved" or "secure," they wouldn’t feel jealous at all. But that’s not how emotions work—and it’s not...[ read more ]
Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are often portrayed as progressive, inclusive, and liberatory. But for many queer and BIPOC individuals, the experience of navigating polyamory can still be deeply shaped by systemic oppression, cultural invisibility, and marginalization—even within communities that consider themselves open-minded. If you're queer and/or BIPOC and exploring non-monogamy, you may find yourself wrestling with layers...[ read more ]
For many people, the path to understanding their relationship orientation isn’t linear. You might be in a monogamous relationship but find yourself wondering about other possibilities. Or maybe you've always felt that monogamy doesn't quite fit—but you’re unsure whether that means you’re polyamorous, simply open to exploration, or somewhere else on the spectrum. It’s common to feel uncertainty, curiosity, even...[ read more ]
Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships, self-respect, and emotional well-being. When someone disregards your boundaries, it can lead to stress, resentment, and even toxic relationships. However, many people struggle to recognize boundary violations until they’ve already caused harm. Learn more about therapy for communication and boundaries Here are 35 clear signs that someone may be crossing your boundaries—emotionally,...[ read more ]
Boundaries and communication are two of the most critical components of healthy relationships, yet they are also among the most misunderstood. Many people struggle with setting clear personal boundaries, while others find it difficult to communicate their needs effectively. To clarify some of the most common concerns, we've gathered insights from therapists to answer frequently asked questions about boundaries and...[ read more ]
Many people struggling with codependency find themselves feeling anxious, overburdened, and emotionally drained by their relationships. They take on more than their fair share of responsibility, constantly trying to manage how others feel, anticipate needs, and prevent conflict. What many don’t realize is that perfectionism often plays a central role in this pattern—fueling an endless cycle of self-sacrifice, guilt, and...[ read more ]
Many people who find themselves in difficult or unhealthy relationships ask the same question: Am I experiencing codependency, or am I trapped in a trauma bond? While these two patterns share similarities—both involve attachment to relationships that may be harmful—there are key distinctions between them that are essential for understanding your experiences and healing effectively. Codependency and trauma bonding often...[ read more ]
Many People in San Francisco Struggle with Codependency in Disguise San Francisco is a city known for its innovation, ambition, and self-sufficiency. The tech industry, entrepreneurial culture, and high cost of living encourage people to be hyper-independent—to solve their own problems, push through challenges alone, and avoid relying on others. But what if this fierce independence is actually a sign...[ read more ]
Do you struggle with putting others’ needs before your own? Feel emotionally drained in relationships? Struggle to set boundaries without guilt? If so, you may be experiencing codependency—a pattern of over-reliance on others for validation, approval, or emotional stability. This can make relationships feel one-sided, exhausting, and emotionally overwhelming. At our San Francisco-based therapy practice, we specialize in helping individuals...[ read more ]