Reviewed by Kathryn Vercillo, MA Psychology | Last Updated: November 2025 You understand your patterns. You can articulate exactly how your dismissive father or anxious mother shaped your approach to relationships. Maybe you have even read Attached, taken the quizzes, listened to the podcasts on your BART commute, and identified your attachment style with precision. Yet somehow, you keep finding...[ read more ]
Reviewed by Kathryn Vercillo, MA Psychology | Last Updated: November 2025 You notice the pattern again. A relationship starts well, but as you grow closer, something shifts. Maybe you find reasons to create distance. Maybe you become anxious when your partner seems less available. Maybe the whole dynamic feels eerily familiar to relationships that didn't work out before. You tell...[ read more ]
Many people who find themselves in difficult or unhealthy relationships ask the same question: Am I experiencing codependency, or am I trapped in a trauma bond? While these two patterns share similarities—both involve attachment to relationships that may be harmful—there are key distinctions between them that are essential for understanding your experiences and healing effectively. Codependency and trauma bonding often...[ read more ]
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